What do you do when you are feeling imperfect?
Imperfection can creep up on me in lots of different ways, leading to destructive feelings and behaviors.
Having intentions and making plans for the next day is a big thing for me. I use to feel like a failure when missing early morning opportunities for photography or simply waking up too late. That often times leads to situations where it literally ruins my whole day because I am not open to what else the day has in store. I end up spending the day mindlessly scrolling through Facebook or YouTube and giving myself excuses why I cannot get things done.
That is a dangerous place to be as it can easily become a bad routine, continuing every day, beating myself up more and more as more opportunities are being missed, the to do lists get longer and self motivation drops.
Cure starts with the acknowledgement that something actually is going in the wrong direction. There is a difference between just having a day where we want to be wrapped in blankets and not leave the house, and letting this become a routine/habit. We all have bad days.
Here are a few tips that I use to get myself back on track.
Cure starts with the acknowledgement that something actually is going in the wrong direction.
Breath deep in a stressful situation.
Here are a two breathing techniques that I use frequently:
Long, slow and deep breath.
Sitting in cross-legged position on the floor, or on a chair. With your eyes closed and pointed to the 3rd eye or rolled up, begin slow, deep breathing.
After a few breaths, start inhaling for 10 seconds, holding for 10 seconds, exhaling for 10 seconds, holding for 10 seconds.
Slowly increase the time for each breath. It is advisable to use a timer, so the mind is not occupied with counting the seconds. There is an app called “Insight Timer” that gives short interval signals.
With every inhale I do imagine making myself wider, creating more and more space around me. I frequently experience improvements in posture, mood, and through the creation of space I feel more openness to invite other possibilities and feel more compassion in my life.
The next breathing technique is the Breath of Fire:
Breath of Fire is a very calming, cleansing and detoxing breath. It is possible to experience vertigo from the breath of fire, so it’s advisable to take it easy in the beginning.
How to: Breath of Fire is a shallow, rapid breath thru the nose. The key is to focus on the exhale. Sit up tall. With every exhale ensure to pull the belly towards the spine. The inhale happens automatically when the belly is relaxed. In the beginning I put my hand on my belly to make sure that it’s totally relaxed and then make sure that I pull the belly towards the spine.
Be gentle with yourself in the beginning and work it up to about 3 breaths per second. For some people it is easier to start breathing through the open mouth with the tongue out, panting like a dog.
Breath of fire helps improves core strength, circulation, and brain activity.
It is possible to experience vertigo from the breath of fire, so it’s advisable to take it easy in the beginning.
In Kundalini Yoga, Breath of fire is considered one single breath.
Yogi Bhajan said that in your life you have a certain amount of breaths rather than years.
So breath of fire is also a life-extending breath.
It is a great breathing exercise that only requires 3-5 minutes and refreshes the whole body.
Oftentimes, the hardest part for me is to start doing it.
Somehow I know that breathing is just what I need, but still there’s a fear of improving my current, bad situation.
I have never regretted using breathing techniques as they always bring me back on track. We have such a powerful tool within us and just need to use it correctly. When I feel off track, I try to analyze how I am breathing - most likely very shallow. I try to put both of these practices into my daily routine, either by themselves or in conjunction with a Kundalini Yoga Kriya.
We have such a powerful tool within us and just need to use it correctly.